Music, Ambition, & Authenticity, So Just Be You

The Return of Lorde
The New York Times Magazine | Jonah Weiner
28 minute #longread

I find Lorde as an artist quite interesting.   This write-up was beautifully written and reminded me again of how smart Lorde is in the way she approaches her music.  I remember reading once about Britney Spears who said that writing pop music was hard –really hard.  And while it’s easy and trendy to sometimes make fun of it, there is a real artistry to it, and those who can master it, have done something brilliant with it, they have something special.  It stayed with me because I had not really thought much of it –pop is so plentiful, anyone can do it, right?  She set me straight.  And Lorde gets that too.


Airlines Like United Can Underpay Bumped Passengers Because of a Government Rule
Harvard Business Review | Rafi Mohammede
4 minute #truth

Oh snap…


10 phrases that will make you a better leader
Medium | SmartBrief on Leadership | Dan McCarthy
4 minute #solution

The first phrase on the list?  Ask, “How can I be a better leader?” —this is one of those simple stop and BE PRESENT type of phrases and it seems so simple it’s easy to gloss over.  But when faced with a trying situation, I challenge you to use it because it’s brilliant in making you pause and reflect and I find you can usually come up with an answer pretty quickly.  The trick?  Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and ask what would they need or want from you?  This phrase is one of my favorites to use as a parent.  When your child is going wild and you’re about to lose it yourself, ask how you can be a better parent.  I know it instantly calms me…because it’s not really about me at all.  It’s always about how you can be there for them.

What to expect when you’re done expecting: visualizing the data of parenting
Medium | freeCodeCamp | Henrik Lindberg
6 minute #reminder

Another parenting one, forgive me, I’m a working mother to a toddler and sometimes it’s all consuming!  And while yes, yes, I’m always tired, I try really hard to remember that I used to say I was always tired even before I have kids.  My child sleeps through the night…it’s not about restful sleep (or at least, it’s not all about that), it’s about the go-go-go of life.  And when I fret about not having time time I desire for hobbies or personal passions, it is too easy to fall into the trap of thinking of if I wasn’t a parent I could get all of these done.  But let’s be real, I used to watch a lot of television.


Logan Square Now Cocktail Bar Capital Of Chicago, But Has It Gone Too Far?
DNAinfo | Mina Bloom
7 minute #WontYouBeMyNeighbor

I love my neighborhood here in Logan Square and the development these last few years has been crazy.  It feels like every time I walk down the street I see something new popping up and yes, they do tend to be bars.  However, as the article points out, there’s plenty of space if you come willing to do your own thing.



In case you missed it

@HerCurator Recents
Her Curator (@hercurator) | Twitter

  1. “The End of the Death Row Last Meal?” by @iammollymchugh
  2. “The Basic Formula For Every Shocking Russia/Trump Revelation” by @mtracey
  3. Animated graph shows how USA has become more polarized in last 20 years @BoingBoing #politics
  4. RT: @rachel lotsa people saying ED is a health issue or viagra helps w/ heart problems. guess what? birth control helps with multiple health issues too!
  5. Read the AMA letter here: #AHCA #HealthCareReform
  6. Has all the feels: “After Beating Cancer, Boy Gets Big Surprise From FBI, Make-A-Wish” @bauerjournalism @MakeAWish
  7. Even democrats didn’t mess with precedent when it came to the Supreme Court. Isn’t the whole point to find some common ground? #disappointed
  8. An entrancing #longread: The Return of Lorde @jonahweiner @NYTmag #music



Just for fun I thought I would share a random song each week that I stumbled upon.

Myths, Amnesia, and Tiny Mistakes

The Myth of Co-Parenting
Motherwell | Hope Edelman


How can women escape being the dominant parent? Did we take or accept this role unknowingly or was it always thrust upon us and we didn’t know what else to do but do it? We do. We endure.

A Case of Reverse Amnesia
The Washington Post | James Hohmann


I was kind of wavering on this issue at first.  Yes, Sessions’ lied (or perhaps innocently omitted) information during his confirmation hearing and that alone was worth him stepping aside and saying he would recuse himself from the Russian interference investigation.  (And it’s never a good sign when I actually agree with Lindsay Graham. Sigh.) However, I did wonder if the press was getting all huffy over nothing.  But then, I read this article and begin to doubt the whole thing all over again.  WTF Trump.  And sessions. And everyone.

See related: “The 3 Trump-Russia scandals, Explained” by Vox | Zack Beauchamp

Tiny Mistakes Cause Inhalers to Deliver Half Doses
Futurity | Jade Boyde-Rice


So, sharing this as a global FYI. It’s probably a good reminder to review the instructions of any medicine you take regularly.  This article pointed out that I too have been making mistakes. It’s unsettling to know that such tiny mistakes may be critical mistakes…

Scientists Need to Stop “Othering” the General Public
ExtraNewsFeed | Jessica Pelland



The importance of building trust between scientists and non-scientists and a reminder that scientists are part of the “General Public.”

She’s 54, white, rural and a lifelong Republican. Why is she protesting Donald Trump?
The Washington Post | Terrence McCoy


Why has she come? She sat quietly toward the front of the bus, unsure, but hopeful, that this march, this trip to Washington, might provide an answer.

It’s an oldie but if you didn’t catch it the first time around, it is worth a read.  Poetic even.  It captures this sense of…disruption that I haven’t seen portrayed any other piece about the Women’s March in Washington.


In Case You Missed It
@HerCurator this week

Her Curator (@hercurator) | Twitter

  1. This high-tech farm can grow perfect veggies literally anywhere in the world via  
  2. This Is How To Make Friends As An Adult: 5 Secrets Backed By Research – Barking Up The Wrong Tree via
  3. Private vs. Public Companies: Trump wasn’t a real CEO  
  4. One unexpected outcome of the Oscars best-picture blunder: Vindication for Marisa Tomei 
  5. We have a vaccine for six cancers. Why are less than half of kids getting it? via
  6. Embrace and educate instead of avoid. “Teaching Children to Play With Fire” (no really!)   
  7. RT: We reached all 26 members of the 2016 Armed Services Committee to see who met with Russian envoy Kislyak in 2016. Sessions was the only one.


Music Find

Just for fun I thought I would share a random song each week that I stumbled upon.

Introspection as Escapism

Oh what a week it has been.  I used to retreat into the news for knowledge, awareness, maybe a little entertainment, but the politics have really started to wear me down.

Crash: how computers are setting us up for disaster
Tim Harford | The Guardian


I cannot wait for self-driving cars, but it’s hard to deny the concerns around computers taking over everything and how we will evolve to manage it.

Our Supreme Meme Leader
Justin Charity | The Ringer


I thought we were laughing so we wouldn’t start crying, but maybe making a joke of it isn’t helping.

When drifting off to exile inside yourself reaches a point of diminishing returns
Nametagscott | Medium


What will be your “agent of transformation”?

Electrical Currents Could Heal Cavities, No Drill Needed
Hannah Poindexter | OMGFacts

Just a quick read on advancements in dental care.  While I don’t have a phobia of going to the dentist I have had some bad experiences so I am always thrilled when any improvements are made!

Seventeen photos of the stunning inaugural ball gowns worn by first ladies over the last 50 years
Sarah Jacobs | Business Insider

An interesting snapshot into history.



Just for fun I thought I would share a song each week that I stumbled upon.

Defending Democracy, Dissent, and A Little Music

Post-Fascist Europe Tells Us Exactly How to Defend Our Democracy
Timothy Snyder | YES! Magazine

Watching the inauguration I felt the same wave of dread I felt when Trump was announced the winner last year.  I haven’t always liked who was elected but this feels different.  I do feel worried and I can’t tell if I’m being paranoid or if this too shall pass.  Right now it feels like it can’t pass quickly enough.  In the meantime, I’m rather not be complacent and this list from Timothy Snyder is worth a read.

A few things stood out for me:

  1. Always have a passport at the ready.  I’ve always stood by this.  But I realized today, my two-year-old daughter still needs one.  Now may be the time…
  2. Subscribe to print media.  This week I signed up for three separate news outlets that are behind a subscription firewall.  I wanted to keep telling myself that news should be free, but real journalism needs funding and so I am doing my small part.  I hope you consider doing so too.
  3. For consideration…one of the comments at the end of the article reads: “I would suggest that all the people saying “wait and see, maybe he will not be so bad” are practicing anticipatory obedience. Those people must be refuted at every opportunity.”  What do you think?

Donald Trump Takes the Fourth
Dave Pell | NextDraft | Medium


Yes! Please yes!

True Leaders Believe Dissent Is an Obligation
Bill Taylor | Harvard Business Review

I’m usually the one in the office raising my hand and asking “why” when the rest of the room is silent.  I don’t know if dissent is an obligation, but I’ve always felt questioning is –either because you don’t understand or because you think others don’t (or maybe just haven’t thought through everything)….


Iceland knows how to stop teen substance abuse but the rest of the world isn’t listening

Emma Young | Mosaic

“The main principle was that drug education doesn’t work because nobody pays attention to it.  What is needed, are the life skills to act on that information.” – Harvey Milkman, American psychology professor who teaches at Reykjavik University.

I found this story about how Iceland has improved teen behavior fascinating.  It would be great to see a bigger country (*cough* USA) actually invest and fund this type of program.

You probably know to ask yourself, “What do I want?” Here’s a way better question
Mark Manson | Quartz


Mark Manson makes the case for asking what are you willing to struggle for to find out what you really want in your life.


Music Find

Just for fun I thought I would share a song each week that I stumbled upon.

Reading, LSD, the Good Life

Hebdomadal – (heb-DOM-uh-dl), adjective; taking place, coming together, or published once every seven days; weekly.  WotD.

In no particular order…

The Way Each Myers-Briggs Type Feels About Reading
Personality Growth

Myers-Briggs summaries always a feel a bit like a horoscope reading, but as an INFJ I do completely agree with this summary.  I am constantly reading, both online and off, as well as audiobooks.  I’ve usually got 3-4 going at any given time.  I would love to hear what book you last read that left an impression.  Don’t be shy, leave a comment!


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How LSD Saved One Woman’s Marriage
Alex Williams | The New York Times


This sounds awesome.  So, er, how does one procure LSD?

What the Aztecs can teach us about happiness and the good life
Sebastian Purcell | Aeon


What is the good life?

12 Things About Being A Woman That Women Won’t Tell You
Caitlin Moran | Esquire

This write-up is surprisingly right-on.  (Not having anything to wear for who I need to be today is especially true.)  I was surprised to learn this one myself:


Does Rh Negative Blood Type Equal Alien Heritage?
Humans are Free

Ready for a little deep dive into crazy?  I happen to be Rh negative and while investigating what exactly that meant I came across this gem.  Enjoy.

#BSC (apparently), Burnout, Post-Secret

I like “old news.” I capture and store it, to reflect on it later.  I figure, if it still resonates when I get around it, then the message is just as good as the day it was published.  I used to use Evernote, then later OneNote to grab quotes as they came along, but I find Highly is my new go-to.

The Feminist Legacy of the Baby-Sitters Club
Brooke Hauser | The New Yorker

A little nostalgia if you ever read Ann M. Martin’s “The Baby-Sitters Club” series.  Also, did you know it was referred to as “BSC”?  My friends never did…


The Surprising Way to Protect Yourself from Burnout 
Michael Lee Stallard | SmartBrief

I keep thinking back to this article because it goes against everything we’re told about burnout. Burnout is from the stress of overwork. Or is it?


15 of Carrie Fisher’s Best, Most Honest Feminist Quotes
The Cut

Let’s take a moment and really appreciate what’s being said here.  Youth and beauty so often are considered accomplishments.  It’s something all American women strive for (or at least are told to strive for).  The young, simply celebrated for what it is; the old, for aging in a way that’s still deemed youthful.  It’s so ingrained that we hardly question what we’re doing.



I have been a longtime PostSecret fan.  I can definitely appreciate the feeling of being “post-secret” after checking in each week, even if the secret is not one that I share.  I tend to save the ones that are personally meaningful and have a whole collection of not-my-secrets-but-could be.


Only 2 Ways to Fight Gentrification (you’re not going to like one of them)
Adam Hengels | Market Urbanism


Talk of gentrification always makes me a little nervous.  Why? Because I’m a gentrifier.

My Curator

For as long as I can remember I’ve been scribbling down quotes, tearing out stories and pictures from magazines, and saving snippets from websites here and there.  I realized I had all these great little pieces which I sometimes would go back and read through, but often times they would simply be captured to never be seen again.  All along I’ve been curating my own collection of tales, smiles, tidbits, and advice.  Her Curator is my curator and I hope you’ll enjoy the collection along side me.
There’s no time like the present….
…the solution? Start tinkering and just start.  Thank you @markmcguinness for the jump start!